Don’t treat these questions like “homework” or a list that needs to be covered in its entirety. Instead, simply pick the one question that captures your attention. Sit with your question at the beginning of the month and again at the end, or before you meet with the theme group. Has your answer evolved over the days?
What did you learn about death from your family as you were growing up? Was death talked about only rarely and in hushed tones? Was death part of normal life, treated with casual respect? How did your family’s approach to death affect the way you dealt with the death of a loved one?
“Do not go gentle into that good night”. How do you understand death? Is it part of the cycle of life? Is it to be feared? Or fought? Embraced? Write down some of your thoughts about death and what happens next.
What have been the big endings in your life? Death, divorce, moving, career loss, injury? How do you feel now about how you weathered these losses? Who or what helped you through the worst moments? What did you learn?
Sometimes an ending, whether chosen or not, can bring about a new good thing into your life. When has an ending brought a new blessing? How did that feel?
Endings can be painfully difficult, but not always. Think of a time when you were able to end a relationship or job or something else well. Compare it to a time when something ended badly, in a mess. What made the difference?